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笑容是幸福的实证

侯美凤, 吉兰丹

关键是要提升自己的生命境界。美凤以此信念挑战自己,面对御本尊时,一再决意:“我一定要改变!”并努力营造和乐的家庭。

Hew Mei Foong侯美凤站在一户家门前,熟络地与一对八旬老夫妇寒暄。夫妇的孩子患有精神疾病,美凤经常挂心地来探望。深知看护的心情,美凤陪伴他们唱题,也帮忙年迈夫妇打扫、剪发、修指甲,给予温暖的关怀。

回到家中,听到丈夫朗朗的唱题声。曾经看护丈夫的美凤看着他,露出了甜美的笑容。

30载的婚姻,美凤紧抱着一段池田先生的指导:“为了幸福,要有清纯的信仰。”她贯彻绝对的确信,战胜丈夫的强迫症。身为一名看护者,美凤要大声地说:“妙法绝对能转换宿命!”

1988年,在全球金融危机的吹袭下,22岁的美凤失业了。于是,她便前往探望远嫁吉兰丹的姐姐。就在这时,她从姐姐口中认识了日莲佛法,并且带着好奇心出席了创价学会座谈会。美凤被会员喜悦的神情吸引,于当年12月入信。

半年后的某天,美凤遭遇严重车祸。一辆车飞撞她骑着的摩托车。奄奄一息的她,庆幸及时送院获救。事后,美凤一再感受到自己获得守护,决心认真实践信心,并萌生“我也要拿出实证”的念头。

逗留吉兰丹期间,美凤有缘与丈夫共结连理。但婚后的美凤很快察觉到丈夫有“洁癖”。起初美凤并不以为意,只认为他特别爱干净。然而,丈夫的行为逐渐严重影响了工作。

丈夫是一名执业医生,诊所的楼上就是住家。丈夫一天要洗澡数次,每次都会超过一个小时,任由病人在诊所等待,许多病人因久等而愤离。无论美凤如何催促,丈夫也无动于衷。由于不理解丈夫的行为,夫妇争吵的次数愈益频繁。

诊所的收入深受影响,而且美凤需要照顾三个年幼的孩子,并一手包办家务。同时也需要协助处理诊所的事务。繁重的生活压力,让原本就羸弱的身躯难以负荷,多次病倒。

内向的美凤,不知向谁倾诉内心的苦闷,也羞于启齿。压抑的情绪导致美凤经常呆坐在一角倏然流泪。

在诸多限制的生活中,美凤庆幸丈夫每个月都会载她出席座谈会。座谈会对她而言,确实就是生命的绿洲。她每次都很珍惜唯一能出席的活动,认真吸取《御书》及池田先生指导中的“养分”,成为她接着一个月的精神支柱。

冲破界限

2004年,丈夫因持续失眠和压力而咨询了心理医生。此时美凤才从医生口中获知丈夫患上了强迫症。吃惊之余,美凤暗下决心:“我要以佛法的力量战胜宿命。”

精神疾病总是让人恐惧。尽管下定决心,美凤还是忧心忡忡。“万一丈夫不能工作,怎么办?”“病情恶化,怎么办?”“孩子的心灵受到影响,怎么办?”每次心情跌至谷底时,美凤就会找妇人部的同志金叶恳谈。“植树时如果遇到大风,以强固的木桩支撑就不会倾倒。”(御书文白Ⅱ,231页)金叶耐心的鼓励,不但舒缓了她内心的压力,还为她明确前进的方向,唱诵明朗的题目。

hew mei foong & comrades
广布同志金叶(右1)的耐心鼓励,总是能舒缓美凤的内心压力,明确前进的方向。

 

美凤抱着“出席一次,就胜利一次”的心持续挑战出席活动,也费尽心思带着孩子一起活动。美凤每天必定会为家人准备三餐、完成家务及诊所的事务,才出外参加活动。不管多忙碌也绝不出一句怨言。

关键是要提升自己的生命境界。美凤以此信念挑战自己,面对御本尊时,一再决意:“我一定要改变!”并努力营造和乐的家庭

身为SGM的干部,美凤竭尽全力照顾会员。在日复一日的努力下、“为他人”的行动中,美凤的内心产生了变化。她展现出更坚强的大我,并将自己从曾被视为沉重负担的桎梏中解放出来。

在不知不觉中,以“怎么办? ”“不可能的啦!”为口头禅的美凤,转变为常说“没问题! 一定能! ”丈夫的病情也稳定下来,能够如常工作。

誓必达成的祈求

2020年当新冠肺炎蔓延全球时,丈夫再度病发。行动管制令一再延长,引发丈夫严重失眠、焦虑、抑郁,病况是前所未有的恶劣,只好入院治疗。

美凤经过多年的信心磨练,在这艰难的时刻,竟然不再哀伤、哭泣。熟悉美凤的金叶,也深切感受到美凤的改变,两人一致决意,“遭遇大难,就是大转换的时候。”

丈夫住院期间,美凤一如既往地鼓励会友。美凤满溢必将“转大恶为大善”的誓愿祈求,决意撼动诸天守护。

Hew Mei Foong

医生特别详细地查询丈夫的病例,密切观察病情之后,开出的药量竟是多年来最低剂量的一次。此疗法让丈夫延续二十多年的强迫症症状不可思议地消失了!此外,皮肤专科诊所的生意也创下开业以来最佳业绩,甚至有病人远从关丹前来看诊。

美凤满怀感恩之心,祈愿自己的身体愈来愈健康,并与他人分享佛法,希望引导更多人将问题和挑战转化为幸福。她决意要坚持这些努力,直到最后一刻。与师匠共同谱写的人间革命剧,未完待续。

摘自2021年3月份《宇宙

Siow Yoon Kee had a long-standing ambition to become a doctor since his secondary school days. However, his motivation to save lives had not taken deep root.

During his college years, he battled gastrointestinal diseases and sought medical treatment from numerous doctors but to no avail. Coupled with a demanding schedule, he experienced immense stress and despair, even contemplating ending his life. Eventually, through the power of chanting Nam-Myoho-Renge-Kyo (daimoku), he realised that his illness was a consequence of an irregular lifestyle, and acknowledged his own arrogance and negligence in his faith. This profound experience led to a shift in his perspective on the purpose of becoming a doctor.

After graduating, he was filled with joy and excitement on his first day of work, being addressed as a doctor. However, that excitement didn’t last. The overwhelming workload, long hours, and the constant fear of being reprimanded for mistakes quickly diminished his initial joy. As a result, the tough realities of the job made him less motivated and less excited about the work he had to do.

Yoon Kee reflected, “I would feel annoyed by patients, especially during night shifts when they complained of pain. I would question them with a skeptical tone. It seemed like I had become a terrible doctor, losing my passion for the job. During those unpleasant days, it was through repeatedly chanting the daimoku that I gradually reflected on my own attitude.”

“I recall a training session for the Beacon Group, a medical group within Soka Gakkai Malaysia, where our seniors encouraged us to face the Gohonzon with our most authentic selves. Inspired by their guidance, I wholeheartedly put it into practice and truly felt the profound joy that daimoku brings. Chanting the daimoku is indeed the greatest of all joys.”

Doctor Siow Yoon Kee

The power of daimoku awakened a profound sense of compassion in Yoon Kee, inspiring him to strive in his human revolution and towards becoming a doctor who could genuinely listen to his patients’ voices.

“After a change in mindset, it was incredible how I found myself wanting to treat patients like family and making an effort to truly listen to their words. My colleagues also noticed that I was more energetic and confident.”

However, transformation takes time and effort. Yoon Kee realised that the biggest hurdle for a doctor is their own sense of superiority. Therefore, his aim was to cultivate resilience and to serve selflessly without seeking personal gain. With the goal of becoming a skilled listener, step by step he made steady progress.

“Once, there was a patient in the final stages of cancer who told me he felt hungry and wanted something to eat. Although I was busy with work, I took a couple of minutes to feed the patient before tending to other patients and resuming my duties. Sadly, the patient passed away thirty minutes later. It was a moment that made me appreciate the power and significance of chanting daimoku, as it enabled me to be there at a crucial time and fulfill the patient’s last wish.

“On another occasion, there was a patient who complained to me, pointing out, “You see, my hands are still swollen, and the medication you prescribed is not effective!” In that moment, I patiently reassured the patient, emphasizing the importance of trusting in the medication’s effectiveness. I assured them that if they maintained their belief, they would experience improvement quickly. As a result, after a few days, the patient’s hand recovered, and the swelling subsided.”

Yoon Kee’s transformation became increasingly apparent over time. Through the practice of faith, he has been forged into becoming a doctor with a sense of mission who confronts the challenges of society with determination. While he humbly recognizes his own areas for growth, he consistently emphasises his resolute dedication to becoming a proficient listener and continuously improving himself.

Adapted from Cosmic May 2017

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